So you like someone and you really wish you knew if you have a chance. You think about the last time you met, your crushâs personality, the way they look and of course, you wonder if they like you back. Youâre not alone! That situation is stressful for everyone and sometimes even scary: how will you ask them without looking dumb or embarrassing yourself, and how will you increase the chance that they say yes?
We collected a few tips for the best way to show youâre interested. The best way to do it is with honesty and confidence, and weâre here to explain why and how.
Be confident, but not arrogant
Looking very nervous when you ask her out will create a stressful atmosphere and increase the chances sheâll refuse. The best way to ask a girl out is with confidence.
Letâs be honest: most of us prefer to be around positive people who have trust in themselves. Confidence implies that a person is independent and has lots of emotional energy to invest in us. In contrast, someone with low self esteem can make us feel responsible for their happiness. She may think, âif I say no, this person will be devastated and hurtâ. Then she already feels sad about hurting you. She may even feel guilty or nervous. Give her the impression that whether she says yes or no, youâll be just fine â or better yet, be content no matter the outcome!
On the other hand, donât ask with arrogance. Donât make her feel like youâre better than her or like her answer doesnât interest you, because thatâs NOT TRUE. Which leads us to the next pointâŚ
Be honest
Honesty is efficient. Anyone can lie but only for so long â the truth will always shine through. Honesty allows both you and her to face reality on realityâs terms. So when you ask a girl out, say what you feel with honesty. Meanwhile â donât be overbearing and donât talk until her ears fall off. For example, if you think about her so intensely that you canât sleep at night, itâs better to say âIâd been thinking about youâ without inviting too many emotions. If you think that going on a date will make you the happiest person alive, how about just saying, âIâd be very happy if you went on a date with meâ. This is about walking the thin line between honesty and oversharing.
Keep it simple
Why not approach this complicated and stressful task â simply? Maybe she likes you too, and is nervous about it. Or maybe she had one of THOSE days, when complicated decisions are not easy to make. Keep it simple. We suggest something like: âHi, I really enjoyed [some activity you had in common] with you and wonder if youâd like to have a coffee sometimesâ. Or, say âyouâve been on my mind, and spending more time together will make me really happyâ. We only live once, so why not give it a shot? You might just be positively surprised!